Inner to Outer



Emotional support for women of color weeding useless thoughts cultivating flowers of a joyful life. Relieve the tension between inner self and outer self with devotion to peace and love to black sisters accross the world. Tending the garden of the mind is here for support to explain simple but powerful ways to start the love from within your black divine being.

Monday, November 12, 2012

Be happy where you are

Be happy where you are

Happiness is a matter of one’s most ordinary and everyday mode of consciousness being busy and lively and unconcerned with self.


Be happy where you are


There is a lot of advice, good and bad, about being happy no matter the age or stage in life. When something bad happens to us, we need to understand that life offers us many surprises.





Some surprises are good and some of them are not so good. We have to see all these surprises as a part of our life, as things that were supposed to happen. The best we can do is to try to learn something each time that something happens.


“If you want to be happy, be. - Leo Tolstoy



Five approaches to life to help you create a happier you right now.



Let your love flow
Sometimes life throws you lemons that test your resolve in unimaginable ways. When this happens, it’s okay to be angry, to cry your eyes out, and to seek answers. Let the emotions you’re experiencing come out in full force. It’s therapeutic. It’s healthy. It’s necessary. And expressing your emotions allows you to let go of your past.

Sail on negativity

Put the past behind you
If you want to be happy now, you need to let go of the past. Open your eyes and see the world around you. It’s a beautiful place. Ask yourself: how can I grow from the tough situations I’ve experienced in the past? How will I be better in the future because of this experience? You may not know the answers right now, but this will help put you in a more present-focused mindset.


Be mindful of the present moment
Take a minute to ponder this: you’re alive and breathing. Your life is filled with people who love you. What more do you need? Humans tend to always strive for more, more, more. But when we open our eyes and focus on life, moment by moment, we stumble upon one of life’s great truths: that every moment is a miracle, and if you treat them as such you will be happier.


Be grateful
Here’s something happy people do differently: they constantly give thanks for what they have, rather than focusing on what they don’t. Take time every day to be grateful. Do something nice for a total stranger. Say “thank you” often and actually mean it. And when someone does a favor for you, pay it forward. The universe could use more grateful, kind people. So be one of them.


Do the things you love today
If you knew, you only had six months to live, what would you do. Whom would you see? How would you spend your time? Those answers will reveal something profound: that you need to stop worrying about trivial, meaningless things and focus on doing the things you enjoy and spending time with the people you love right now.


Don't be afraid to say I love you first

Here is one of the easiest ways to be happy right now: pick up the phone, call a friend or family member you care about, and tell them you love them. If your life or the life of someone close to you ended suddenly, what is the last thing you wish you could say? I love you. Say those three words as often as possible. Do not let meaningful thoughts and fears in your life get in the way of telling people how you feel about them. You have the power to change someone’s life (and your own) with your words.




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