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Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Different Types of Lies and Liars

Different Types of Lies and Liars

Different Types of Lies and Liars

You complimented your loved one on the delicious dinner cooked for you, but it actually had your mouth on fire from all the spices. Lying has long been a part of everyday life. Lying is an unavoidable part of human nature; however, when it becomes destructive to the liar's life, or to those to whom he lies become pathological.

Lies could be told by anyone
What is a lie? A lie is an untrue or inaccurate statement that may or may not be believed true by the person.  Lying is a form of deception, but not all forms of deception are lies.

Bryan King, a psychiatrist at the U.C.L.A. School of Medicine stated that pathological liars are very sincere about their lies, but if confronted with facts, they will often reverse their story. Their stories have a believable consistency, but they just do not seem able to monitor whether they are telling the truth or not. Dr. King describes five varieties of lies:

Manipulative lies are the hallmark of the sociopath, or ''antisocial personality,'' which is driven by utterly selfish motives. Such people are not necessarily criminals; they may gravitate toward the fringes of trades like sales, where their bent toward lying may serve them well. Since sociopaths feel no remorse or empathy for their victims, they are capable of the most cold-hearted of lies.

Melodramatic lies which make them the center of attention are natural to the hysteric, or ''histrionic personality.'' Such people are searching desperately for love. They are also more taken with emotional truths than the facts of a situation. ''Casual lies are to the hysteric what license is to the poet,'' according to Dr. King.

Grandiose lies typify the narcissist, whose deep need to win the constant approval of others impels him to present himself in the most favorable light. They are prone to exaggerate their abilities or accomplishments in order to seem more impressive. Because narcissists feel entitled to special treatment - for instance, believing that ordinary rules do not apply to them - they can be reckless in their lies.

Evasive lies are typical of the borderline personality, whose wildly vacillating moods and impulsive actions constantly get him into trouble. Many of the borderline person's lies are told to avoid blame or shift responsibility for his problems to others.

Guilty secrets account for many lies of the compulsive person, a type who generally is scrupulously honest. Compulsives pride themselves on following the rule and attention to facts and details. But they also suffer from a fear of being shamed, and so lie to prevent other people from finding out about things they feel would meet with disapproval. Their lies are often mild, about things most others would find no cause for lying; one man, for instance, lied to his wife to keep her from finding out about his being in therapy.

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